Byline: EBONY Magazine

Check out my two feature articles in EBONY Sept 2018 Fashion Issue. I had the pleasure to speak with the indefatigable Emmy Award-nominated lead actress and TV show creator, Issa Rae. I write about her experience with the Peabody award-winning HBO series “Insecure” and how its success is helping her to provide a voice for people of color in Hollywood.

Also, I talk with Emmy Award-winning editor and filmmaker Nicole Franklin and how her leap into investing in cryptocurrency is allowing her to compete in the trillion-dollar Media and Entertainment industry. Plus I give a snapshot of the digital coins in “Cryptocurrency 101” Check out “Woman in the Mirror” and “Coin Collector” both written by me in EBONY September. On Newsstands Aug 15.

Circumstance Changes, Not Goals

“I’ve never wanted to be a lady who lunches. I’ve always wanted to be a woman who works.” ~The Duchess of Sussex, nee’ Meghan Markle

There are two things you must learn in  life; never say never and when goals meet with a change in circumstance; the response can be and, instead of either or.

For example, let’s say while working as an actor, you have also decided your life’s work will be social justice and women empowerment. Then one day you meet a prince, fall in love and marry.

You’ll get a title when the status of your relationship changes.
You may wear a different uniform. Maybe, one fashioned for a duchess that requires wearing silk stockings.

While short-sightedness may impair the vision of others; you see undergarments have no bearing on values.

Hosiery won’t change the goal. Your mission remains the same.

What has changed is your platform. Your audience reach has grown exponentially. You realize you can be a woman who works on a global scale and the lady who lunches on cucumber sandwiches.

You also know life happens while making plans. It usually exceeds expectation; good, bad and or indifferent.

The change in plans above could be considered painless.

That’s not always the case. Sometimes changes are uncomfortable and make goals appear as if they’re unattainable.

They’re not. It’s your perspective that’s askew.

Level up, then look closely. You’ll notice; like Heraclitus allegedly said, change is the only constant. And it always arrives with a new a platform, set of resources and new tools at your disposal.

Use them.

And as the British say, carry-on. Your goal awaits you.

50 Ways to Say Yes to You

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
(Or just pay cash and maintain your freedom)
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
(Why say yes to what you want less of – arguing a point gives it your lifeforce)
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
8. It’s OK to get angry with G-d
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; G-d never blinks.
16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.
18. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.
19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple
24. The most important sex organ is the HEART
25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years will this matter?”
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone, everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. G-d loves you because of who G-d is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young
37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable. (great memories I hope)
38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
41. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
42. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful..
43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
45. The best is yet to come.
46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
48. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
49. Yield.
50. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

I found this list in MySpace Blog Files. I’m not the author.  I first posted it on Saturday,  January 05, 2008.  I find the message is still relevant today. If you know the author’s name and website please let me know. I would like to give credit and attribution. Thank you. And thank you for reading!