Compassion doesn’t equal guilt. Feeling sorry for someone who’s experiencing difficulty serves no one. Unless that is, it helps you think you’re in a superior position. (side-eye) So if not guilt, then what?
Well, remember, the root word of compassion is Pass.
From Lexico – Latin: com – together; passus -pace or step.
Years ago, Smokey Bear was most famous for his admonishment:
“Only You Can Prevent Forest Fires”
He would point directly at the camera, and we knew Smokey meant business.
Today, when I hear of wildfires burning out of control, Smokey’s words are the first thing that comes to mind.
” ONLY YOU CAN PREVENT FOREST FIRES,” he’d warn.
The second thing that comes to mind is relationships. How we behave to others around us.
When I hear of relationships spiraling out of control, I think of Smokey saying,
Only You Can Prevent Your Relationships from going up in flames.
Now you may point a finger and ask about the other person. You may wonder why they can’t share some of the blame.
And if I were Smokey, the honorary forest ranger, I’d say because you are the common denominator in any of your relationships. What you bring to those relationships, i.e., your internal condition will affect them all.
For example, if I have trust issues, then no one will be trustworthy. Not my spouse, my friends, my employer, my co-workers; not even my children. Whatever is navigating my life course, whether it be the 7 Deadly (wrath, greed, lust, gluttony, envy, pride, sloth) or LOVE, it will be how I’ll steer my relationship with others. It will be the lens through which I see everything.
It doesn’t matter if I’m ‘sexing’ in a marriage or in an affair; guiding in my parental duties; working; supervising; befriending; I am the captain of the SHIP, so to speak, and how I lead is where each of my relationships will go during the journey.
If I’m divorced, happily married, separated, partnered, have happy children who adore me, have children that despise me, fired, laid off, living from paycheck-to-paycheck, gainfully employed, at the helm of a thriving business; a failing enterprise, happy clients, dissatisfied customers, a boss that sings my praises; a boss who wishes I’d call in dead, coworkers that want me on their team; coworkers who hide when I come in the front door, friendless, or experiencing thriving friendships, have parents who adore me, parents that hate me, loving relatives, or relatives that are ghost, will be all because of me.
I was reminded of this oneness on Sunday, June 10, 2012, as we were flying into Denver Airport.
In this photo, you can see an aerial view (at 10,000 feet) of the wildfires that are burning out of control in Larimer County, Colorado.
When our “Ship” hit moderate-to then severe turbulence, it would be an understatement, to say it rocked our “boat.”
We made a choice to fly that day, but the atmospheric conditions made flying difficult at best.
The wildfires were burning out of control about 10,000 feet below us and northwest of our destination. The air above the fires, whirling Eddies, appeared to cause the turbulence. I wondered if our ship would go down if the captain piloting didn’t maintain the plane’s distance and altitude? That’s allegedly what happened to the fatal Utah Air Tankers fighting forest fires, the prior week.
“We didn’t start the fire,” as Billy Joel sang, it was burning long before we got there. But for a few moments, we got caught up in its rage, and it became apparent to me.
“Internal conditions could affect everything outside and around it.”
If I had a fire raging inside of me, I thought, could I bring
down all around me?
What if I had an abundance of LOVE coursing through my very being would I be able to lift everyone around me to new heights?
I accept I set the course and navigate my relationships to their destination.
You too are the captain of your relationSHIPs.
So, look around you. Look at your life.
Our lives are made up of moments.
Those moments make up the experiences.
The experiences make our relationships.
What do you see?
If you don’t like where you are heading remember you can
always change course.
Only You Can Make the Change
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#TBT -Throwback Thursday. I found this old post while updating my site. When I noticed the date of August 22, 2017 – I just had to post. Thank you for reading.
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An open mind will see possibilities; a made-up mind will gather evidence for what it already believes. Sometimes at the expense of a life filled with happiness.
And such is the case in the Christmas film “Merry In-Laws.”
Peter, a kindergarten teacher, must convince his fiancee’ Alex Spencer, that her soon-to-be inlaws are Santa and Mrs. Claus. Alex is an astrophysicist trained in finding proof. But Peter needs her to believe, without reason, before his parents come to town.
But first, he must overcome his beloved’s meddling astrophysicist father who taught her that Santa Claus is a myth. Alex tries to believe. But she loses faith when her ex-boyfriend brings photographs to prove that Peter is using “my parents are the Clauses” story to hide his alleged infidelity. Unfortunately, it’s easier for Alex to believe a lie before her eyes than the truth that would leave her at odds with her father. Alex’s son, 6-year-old Max, has seen the proof that Santa is real but it isn’t enough to convince Alex. She confesses, Santa let her down when she was a child. And without hard evidence, Alex is determined not to fall for the Santa story again.
Except Santa and Mrs. Claus, played by George Wendt and Shelley Long of the long-running TV sitcom “Cheers”, are hard to resist. The two, using elfin magic, help the family, including Alex’s mother, a trained psychologist. Together they knock down the walls the family erected to keep their world orderly.
By the film’s end, Alex gets her wish of charting the Christmas Star. And in doing so, we learn it’s an open-heart that opens the mind. Only then can we see what’s hidden, but right in front of us all the time.
#wednesdaywisdom #christmasinjuly #loveoverlogic
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