Have you heard the saying
“I should have followed my first mind”?
It’s that little voice inside, the one that speaks first, that commands our attention.
It’s our conscience; the soul’s compass.
It knows where we want to go and what we want to do in life.
It doesn’t matter what mama n’em say. Nor what the best friend says.
It’s the first voice to speak that we must obey.
When we do we give the appearance that we trust ourselves and our choices.
And since we make very few choices in life, and all are life-altering; it’s best that we follow the voice’s lead or pay the price.
Case-in-point, I’ve learned the hard way not to second-guess myself.
Recently, I looked back at my choice in men. I chose a few when I was 9-years of age. They weren’t men then. We called it a crush. By the way, these weren’t boys who crushed on me. They were the men (boys) I chose. Note there’s a difference.
What I realized today is the boys back then are now all professional and personal successes. These men grew up to be doting fathers too. Well, save one indicted for racketeering. Before his run-in with the law, he was high on the food chain.
But I digress.
What I find weird is how the heart knows what’s best for us before our minds can comprehend.
Knowing, however, doesn’t stop the mind from second-guessing the heart’s choices.
The mind is a decision maker. So, it’s best at elimination which includes preventing us from staking a claim.
That’s the heart’s job. It’s the heart that makes choices.
The heart gives us the courage to go after what we choose.
But the heart doesn’t reason. It doesn’t tell us why our choices are correct. It wants us to have faith, believe and then we’ll see.
In every one of those cases above, I eventually allowed my mind to rule over my heart.
It was a safe bet. I knew the outcome as if I were writing the story.
I’m a talented writer.
I’m so talented that I live in a small safe world where I know how each day will end.
I wrote it that way.
Except I don’t think that’s the definition of living.
So, when my mind runs amok, I refer to a quote from Goethe.
“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.“
This quote is a shortened version of what Mephistopheles says to Faust in Johann Wolfgang von Goethe‘s Faust: A Tragedy.
If I renege on a choice, it means I don’t trust myself. I’ve lost faith.
Which brings me to Kwanzaa’s seventh principle, Imani.
I’m going to trust the English translation is faith.
“to believe with all our hearts in our people, our parents, our teachers, our leaders and the righteousness and victory of our struggle.”
Having faith in yourself and what you do flows naturally to having faith in others.
Faith is the other golden rule our mind wants to forget. Not to worry, though.Even if we don’t practice it daily,
we know it by heart.
“We know we don’t get depressed.
Here’s what we call our golden rule: Have faith in you and the things you do you won’t go wrong.
Oh, know this is our family jewel.”
Songwriters: Nile Rodgers / Bernard Edwards
Link: Official Kwanzaa Website