You are who you are…

You are who you are.  You just need to find where your talents can make a difference.

In other words, you must find where you fit.

Let me back up a bit.

The conversation that led to this epiphany began how it always starts – with gossip.

My daughter mentioned that a married couple, we both know, always spends their free time with each other. I thought, what a concept, right?

The observation triggered a thought about the husband’s former girlfriend and how she thought he was a loser and fat.  She left him. Fast forward to the future. Today, he’s slim, happily married  and runs a successful business.

The conversation turned philosophical…

Daughter: Maybe something or someone turned his life around and enabled him to become a success.

Mother: Nothing outside of us can change who we are inherently.

Daughter: Example: A Forbes article did a profile stating Sean “P. Diddy” Combs and Shawn “Jay Z” Carter are within a few hundred-thousand dollars of having a billion-dollar net worth. Because of the existence of the other they’re motivated.

Mother: Back up they both had the same background but in a different industry.  What they both have in common is that hustler mentality to play the odds and use the resources available to them.  What’s not available to them they create.

So, the question remains how does one find a venue to use their talents to the best of their ability?   And if they’re stuck how do they work with themselves instead of against?

… Wait, “Seinfeld” answered that question with its character “George Costanza”.   George became successful once he became the un-George (YouTube link).  Whatever George would do in any given situation, he thought and then did the opposite.  Instead of playing against himself, he played himself (un-self) and won.

Nothing on the outside of George changed him. He just knew what didn’t work in his current venue and did the opposite.

Maybe that’s how both Sean and Shawn escaped their former life to one more suited to financial success in our current society.  They may have gone against their instincts and it propelled them out of their environment to an upward trajectory…

Daughter: hmm…

Mother:  Thank you! You answered the question! If your decisions aren’t serving you in your current incarnation then maybe the opposite yet equal reaction is necessary.

By the way, Seinfeld billed itself as, “a show about nothing” but it was “a show about “everything”.

Happy Mother’s Day!

In celebration, I’m taking a day off from editing. It is the opposite of what the anal-retentive me I would do.

Oh yes, Mother’s Day!

My Girls (1992)

These cherubs, my daughters, gave my mother and me an all-expense paid 5 night 4-day vacation for Mother’s Day.

My Girls (1992)










And this gem of an ex-husband called my mother to wish her a Happy Mother’s Day and to thank her for me.  He then called me to say, “Thank You”…

Brunch with Father (2016)


So, remember what I wrote about him in that other post?


Never mind.

He was my Un-Mel choice; the best dad, a mom could ask for her daughters….







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