Who would you be if you didn’t care what others thought of you? Or a better question, who are you when no one is looking? Do you know? Have you ever met her?
If you haven’t, is the masked woman hiding the reason you haven’t achieved your life’s goals?
When we spend time trying to be everything to everyone, we forfeit our true self, and our dreams go with it.
If this seems familiar, however, don’t sweat it. There’s still time to recover your Self and your dreams.
Finding Self can be a bit tricky, depending on how far you’ve buried her.
Here are a few things to look for to help you recognize her once she surfaces.
- (1) There’s no detailed description of your behavior or habits. You’re fluid and unpredictable because you’re not in the pursuit of external approval.
- (2) Since no two moments are alike, not even you can determine how you will respond when the moment arises. Instead, you weigh each encounter and respond (not react) accordingly.
- (3) There’s a box, a category, and there’s you who doesn’t fit in either.
- (4) You acquire and process information quickly because you have no need to save face or please anyone. This ability helps you move quickly on your mission.
- (5) You don’t apologize for allowing others to take responsibility for their feelings and emotions – in fact, your lack of empathy serves as a catalyst to enable them to work through it, which frees up time.
- (6) Instead of over-thinking and contemplation that results in analysis paralysis, you have a bias for action.
- (7) You know the difference between criticism and critique, yet neither interferes with your goal achievement.
- (8) You’re laser-focused on task but not oblivious to your surroundings.
- (9) You recognize opportunities and eschew distractions.
- (10) You realize the only way to achieve your dreams is to live them while awake.
“Our truest life is when we are in dreams awake…[I]n dreams we never deceive ourselves, nor are deceived.” Henry David Thoreau – A Week on the Concord and Merrimack Rivers.
“The End” – Season 5 Episode 20 of The X-Files raised the question “the real you” and was the inspiration for this post.